I truly believe one of the single most importnant factors in lost of spark in a relationship comes from the stoppage of dating. When a couple first meet and start to date there is a magical feeling there. They want to be together often and usually on the phone talking or texting each other to stay engage. Perhaps you remember the time that he use to sing, write poems, or take you out frequently. Maybe she would give you massages, cook, and make you feel love each second you were in her presence. What happened to the living happily ever after once you met that special person that you thought was the one. What happens to the spark? It is thought of by many people that when two people meet they start off with a spark. Then they fall in love in live happily ever after. Sorry to bust your bubble but in many cases that's not how it is. Many that fall in love are left in a more mature state in their relationship. They usually are deeply bonded but not connected on the intimate level as in the beginning.
OK...For the good news!
It doesn't have to be this way. Obviously there will be some days where one may feel more in love and others where the connection and intimate level isn't there, but these are issues that can totally be conquered. That magical feeling does not have to die out. It starts with killing that thought process that after awhile it is what it is in a relationship. We together...We been together…I understand her...She understand me...etc. To achieve firing back up a spark a couple need to realize they have to date again.
What you need to search for is that time in the relationship where it was a WOW. Where it seemed like everything was about you and your mate. Nothing else mattered! If you two didn't have many memories then just go rent a movie about romance. That should help out a bit. Also going on dates and doing things are not the only way to creating that dating experience over again. You need to create a department in your brain that would allow you to feel like the relationship is something new. Women give your man a new look. Go buy a new dress. A style you usually don't wear or different design in your hair. Men go get a new piece of clothing. Something she not use to seeing as far as style. This will create that perception that you are new because your style would be new. This little bit of style can carry that thought on for days.
Stay curious about new aspects of this “new” person, no matter how extraordinary the situation seems. Allow your love to grow and change. Be daring as you try to keep the spark alive. Try new things...Think exciting...Happiness...Fresh!!! Most importantlydon't kill the experience by thinking about the past, and thinking about how you previously went about things. Think outside the box. Surprise your mate and yourself. Go get concert tickets..Stay at really nice hotel overlooking water…Dinner on the lake. It would be fun, and it would create the spark that you are looking for. Doing this experience monitor your feelings. You will realize that there is a spark that is being rediscovered.
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